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Thursday, January 21, 2010

The Narcisists are due in San Diego

I had a post all prepared for today about Betty Broderick and all the reasons she should remain in prison for the rest of her life...and then I went to work.

So though I'll still post the Betty Broderick diatribe I have to take a moment here and say yet again how much I love teaching. I didn't keep them the whole class period, I didn't even scratch the surface of what we'll talk about this semester and I still had a blast. after I stayed another 40 minutes and talked with two students who are contemplating where to go to finish their BA's. I'm not counting my chickens, but I think it's going to be a fine semester.

Now, back to Betty. I learned this morning that she was denied parole, which is just. I'll be almost 70 when she gets another chance, she'll be almost 80. I doubt she ever understands what she did. But pity is no reason to let her out.

Narcissist/Murderer Betty Broderick wants out of prison. It's a tough call.

Rehabilitation is impossible. Narcissists are incapable of understanding that they did anything wrong. They're the victim, they're never the aggressor.

Ask Betty why her ex-husband and his wife got shot to death in their sleep. She'll tell you that she went there to kill herself in front of them and when they moved she shot them cause she thought they'd call the police. (see, their fault) Having had nearly disastrous encounters with narcissists in the past I can promise you that what Betty says is a lie. But with no one to disprove it, she could go free.

OJ is another good example of a narcissist, he's reportedly told people after Nicole Brown's murder, "If she hadn't opened that door with a knife in her hand she'd be alive today." her fault)

The narcissisitc personality can't, and honestly does not want to understand others in any way. What they decide they want is paramount and they'll do anything to make it happen. They'll manipulate, they'll lie, they'll kill. No problem.

Narcissism makes the victim think they're insane. And that makes the narcissist look good. They're very proactive when it comes to making sure everyone knows how much they do for their loved ones and how many sacrifices they make for them.

The victim is treated very differently in public than they are in private. in public the victim may be ignored while the narcisist gives all their attention to others and pretends to be the perfect wife, father etc...

In private they're haughty, sarcastic, insulting, and put people,(even their friends)behind their backs. ( are those who say that narcissism can be cured, but I've never seen any evidence to support that contention. For anyone to be cured of anything they must first recognize that there is a problem, and Narcissists do not think there's anything wrong with them, it's everyone else.

I once had a conversation with a narcissists regarding potential repairs to their car. Within three minutes they were almost in a rage over the poor job someone was GOING to do on their car. And the repairs hadn't even happened yet.

I knew a narcissist who spent 20 years in a marriage making sure everyone knew that she was her husbands victim and that he was abusive and neglectful. after they divorced she married a wonderful guy and attempted to get others to believe that she was trapped in a loveless marriage in which she was again the victim. When it was made clear to her that no one believed her she stopped this tactic and began attacking him directly. He died of a heart attack in less than 2 years.

So, though I personally think narcissists should all be locked up together so they can only punish each other, and that this should be recognized as a mental disorder even though therapy is useless, I fear we'll continue to see this disorder ruin relationships and families.

Betty's is already ruined, she may as well go free so she can wreak havoc on those closest to her and leave the rest of us alone.

She's going to anyway.

And so it goes:

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